Sometimes, I can’t hold a tea cup

johari_window.jpg…today is one of those days, i’m just too tired.

And for no good reason either. I went to bed at about 10.10 and went more or less straight to sleep. I do nothing too strenuous. But it makes me feel so grotty that i have the attention span of a very stupid goldfish.

So, a blog in lists…again:

  • I’ve eaten too much weetabix
  • I can’t wait to get home and eat a nice big bowl of pasta
  • Perhaps too much wheat in one day
  • Well…. that’s it really. Hmmm. Not such an interesting day I guess.

Wizzy.

Oh wait. Ok…

The Wishy Washy Bit

Yesterday, I emailed out to about 5 friends. A mixture of people i’ve known for a long time, online friends etc. The aim of my email was to get them to help me fill in one of these:

johari_window.jpg

It was an exercise for my councellor, and i needed them to honestly tell me how they saw me in order for me to begin filling in my boxes.

One person in particular surprised me. She was a very good friend in school when I was about 15 and also happened to be one of the friends I was bullied by, and so we obviously fell out. As we got a bit older, I put that all aside and we have now formed a new more tenuous relationship and I think on both sides we are a bit sad that it will never be how it was, but we catch up now and then.

So for her to have such an accurate view of how I see myself and the struggles I have, despite us not being close and despite keeping myself to myself quite a bit, was a surprise.

A nice one. It’s always nice to know that someone out there understands you, no matter how much you hide and cover up and pretend.

22 Responses to this post.

  1. Oh no

    I didn’t send my reply :(

    I’m sorry Pinky x

  2. that’s ok. I had 4 i think, which was plenty enough!

  3. That is so weird, a friend of mine sent me a mail on the johari window yesterday…apparently because my hidden self is too exposed..or to quote exactly
    “keeping secrets is healthy and tasteful, because it is a way of managing your identity, and indicates you are secure and have self-control. But it takes energy, because you have to be on constant guard not to accidentally reveal something that is potentially damaging.”
    Yeah doesnt apply to me that one.

  4. I think i would have told that friend where to go!

    It’s a really good exercise to do though and I found it really interesting!

  5. I’m having a real problem dealing with this ‘bullying’ thing. So many people suffer for such a long time after being bullied at school. It seems to be a big issue now. But it’s always existed. Why wasn’t more done when we were at school to stop it?

  6. I don’t think people know how to deal with it. People, Schools or Parents.

  7. oh i am glad that an old friend surprised you. Maybe she is better one on one.

  8. yes, i don’t think we can be the friends we were when we were younger, but I think we can certainly be some kind of friends again.

  9. Is the weetabix with hot milk?

    I had weetabix for breakfast this morning. Yum.

  10. Yay for wheat!!! Can’t be arsed with all this wheat intolerance shit! :)

  11. Jo just normal milk…but i’m getting a bit fed up of it now

    PrincessP hmmm well i actually had chip shop chips insted and they were lovely!

  12. The mention of Weetabix has made me want some.

  13. wow what a brave thing to do – to ask people to be honest about such thing! Also, I love your colour alterations using CSS for this theme! Nicely done!

  14. Perp just don’t eat too much, it makes you acidy.

    miss a hello! :) I think they were more worried about being honest than I was of the answers, it was a really good exercise to do though.
    And thanks, colour is one thing i AM good at! :)

  15. Weetabix is best with vanilla or strawberry yoghurt in my opinion!

  16. When partaking of Weetabix I find three is just the right number, with two big spoons of sugar on top :)

  17. Cat ewww, really? Isn’t it all dry?

    perp three?! hmm…two i think. with very cold milk

  18. Weetabix – two, with warm milk and LOTS of sugar :) YUM (Shreddies are even better though)

  19. Warm milk? Urgh.

    Shreddies are also great, but I find that no matter how well I brush my teeth I find bits of Shreddies for hours afterwards.

  20. I am constantly surprised by the people who understand me that way. I mean, I’ve made obvious and clear efforts with certain people to LET them get to know me for the sake of friendship and whatnot, but it’s thrown me when someone just.. gets me…
    It’s a nice feeling though.

  21. There is no such thing as too much Weetabix.

    Handy hint:
    If you only have enough milk left for a cup of tea in the morning. Make the cup of tea, then tip it on your Weetabix. This works with AlBran & Shredded wheat as well. Kind of rubbish on Rice Krispies, CocoPops or Corn Flakes though.

    As regards the Bullying thing. In the relatively olden days, where I come from, it was either dealt with or it wasn’t. Kind of sink or swim. Even if you sank, you’re life carried on.

    I’m not saying it was a better, or a worse way of dealing with it, just different. Kind of like the Nietzschean thing. “That which does not kill me, only makes me stronger”. You turned out how you turned out, by your own devices.

    Now-a-days, with the support & back up etc. that is available. You still turn out how you turn out by your own devices. You just go down a different route, with a guide, rather than working it out for yourself.

    I think. Maybe.

    That’s me off to find out what the hell Johari Windows are.

  22. you’re all obsessed with Weetabix…official like

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